Debunking the 3 Biggest Myths About Therapy
Therapy gets a bad rap sometimes, especially among men. Let’s clear up some of the biggest myths that might be holding you back.
1. "You have to be broken or crazy to go to therapy."
Not even close. Are you broken or crazy for hiring a coach, mentor, or expert to help you level up in life? Of course not—that’s just smart. Therapy is no different.
At its core, therapy is simply two people talking about challenges and finding solutions. It can be as structured or as laid-back as you want. And if you’re worried about saying something “too wild,” trust me—therapists have heard it all. There’s no need to be intimidated by the process.
2. "Therapy doesn’t work."
This one is tricky because, like anything in life, therapy doesn’t come with a 100% success guarantee. But here’s the reality: growth isn’t linear.
Think of it like the stock market—there are ups and downs, but over time, the overall trend is positive. Therapy works when you put in the effort, stick with it, and find the right therapist for you.
3. "Therapy is only for women."
There’s some history behind this myth. Therapy was originally developed to address so-called "women’s issues," and as recently as the 1980s, women were still being treated for "female hysteria"—which is wild when you realize that was only 40 years ago.
Because of that history, society still holds onto the idea that therapy is for women, but this is changing. Men benefit from therapy just as much, but they often need a different approach. That’s why therapy designed specifically for men can be so effective. Men tend to think in terms of real problems and real solutions. We work best when we tackle challenges together, which is why collaborative therapy—where you and your therapist work side by side—can be a game-changer.
If you’ve been holding onto these myths or have more questions about therapy for men, reach out. There’s nothing weak about wanting to be your best.
-Brenton Love, AMFT
(657) 201-9916
Therapy for Men, brentonlovetherapy.com